Love your anger

When we feel angry, we don't like to look in the mirror. But other people can see us. Anger is kind of ugly, it's uncomfortable, it's difficult, so we reject it. Anger is one of those feelings that should not be shown, because it is not socially acceptable. However, it accompanies us daily and at the same time we do not have the tools to deal with it.

Anger is often repressed or covered up with shame or aggression. The negative perception of anger is conditioned by social rules. Nevertheless, times are changing, and awareness of emotions is increasing. 

I observe that anger is constantly rejected and suppressed (also by myself), because we do not understand this difficult feeling and its role as a tool for working on ourselves. 

We learn mathematics and other subjects at school, but we have no basic knowledge about the body and emotions, relationships, and fulfilment in life. We go round and round with the same problems, we complain, we blame others for our failures, and we assume the role of the victim in our life.

Anger and its derivatives, such as rage, irritation, resentment, or impatience, are self-needs that demand to be satisfied now. When I am impulsive and feel uncontrollable anger, I’m recommended to take a few deep breaths, but why? To give myself some time to get in touch with myself and find what I need the most right now. 

Life would be simpler if we were aware of our own needs and if we could use our anger to meet these needs and pursue our dreams or create visions.

Our anger is a driving and healing force.  How to use its driving power?

To be continued… 

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Gosia