Forgive yourself

Ever since I remember I used to work really hard on growing and developing myself. It might be in my genes  - after all, I do have Learner and Developer as my talents.

When L. came into a picture I struggled. Motherhood was tough, especially with just P. and I handling everything on our own. Some days were good, but most were a rollercoaster. L. has been my biggest life lesson, and she keeps teaching me new things about being a mum. After A. was born, managing two kids was a new level of chaos. I yelled at them more than I'd like to admit, and the guilt that followed that was big! It was like this vicious cycle of yelling and feeling bad about it. 

I realised I had to take responsibility and change the way I was dealing with things. It hasn't been easy, and some days still get challenging, but most of the time I manage to handle things without losing it completely. And that is worth celebrating it, right?

Recent conversation with my Mum made me realise that there is one more step in my development - learning to forgive myself for all those times I lost it. Forgiving yourself is not easy, but it's crucial for personal growth.

There are seven steps to self-forgiveness:

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- Acknowledge your mistakes and take responsibility for them
- Recognise that everyone makes mistakes and that it is natural part of being human
- Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with kindness and understanding
- Let go of the past and focus on the present moment and the future
- Learn from your mistakes and use them as opportunities for growth and self-improvement
- Seek support from loved ones, friends or even professional if needed
- Embrace forgiveness as an ongoing process and be patient with yourself

The toughest part for me is going to be practicing self-compassion. It's so much easier to be kind to others, but when it comes to myself, not so much. 

Writing this blog is my way of taking a step towards forgiving myself and letting go of that guilt. Nobody's perfect, right? We all mess up sometimes, but that's how we learn and improve. 

One step at a time.

With love

Mags

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